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I feel unattractive and ugly i want to have plastic surgery. I have also had an abortion .?

hey there evrybody how are you . I feel that because of so much rejection from guys relationships that i think iam ugly fat and overwiehgt and i want to have cosmetic surgery to remove my tummy. First of all let me explain my dilemma . Ihad a affair with a married man which has now ended as he has found somebody else as a lover. I became pregnant with his baby i was 2 months gone before i knew any way after i told him he didnt acknowledge it was his baby and could not believe it even though he probably damn well knew. Any way I had the abortion. At the consultation prior to the treatment he was cold to me and unfriendnly and said that we could never be a proper couple and to meet somebody else and go back to my husband he then told me that he had met somebody else now on the dating site and he was not interested he said this to me twice both at the consultation and after the acutal abortion had taken place. help me guys please to sort my dilemma THANK YOU:)

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1. You don't need plastic surgery. You need to gain some self worth and stop letting people treat you like a fool. Stand up for yourself.
2. whats to sort? he doesnt want you so pick yourself up learn from your mistakes and move on sorry to sound harsh but thats all there is to it ok you messed up but who doesnt leave it behind and make a better go of your life from now
3. hi. firstly what is done is done. you cant take back the abortion you have to live with that and hopefully move on also start building a new life for yourself away from married men who can offer nothing more than a bit on the side sex! you dont sound ugly , you sound like you get very low self esteem that needs to be building back up. start taking up hobbies and interests and getting back on track.
4. I can see how you look by looking at your ivatar. It sure isn't pretty...
5. its not surgery you need, its therapy
6. sounds a bit like a dilemma out of eastenders, dont change ur body i had the same promlems then my bf came along he loves me for who i am not for what i look like, if you changwe urself ppl will be after you for ur body not what u look like......the rite guy will cum along
7. First things first ... do you NEED plastic surgery? Sorry, but will admit that ugly is not a thing you can change .. if you think you are, well ... you get the picture. Fat and overweight? Unless you have a hormonal imbalance of some sort, then this can be changed. If you think you can hadnle the stress and pain of plastic surgery, then surely you can handle the 'inconvenience' of getting into shape. Sorry, did not mean to be disrespectful to anyone.
8. Love men like that are not worth it at all. They are only horrible to you as they think you are going to tell their wife. Plus you were pregnant and he was Sh1ting himself about it as you could get him slatted as you had proof he was having an affair. Dont go for men that are married hun other wise you will never have a proper relationship, some one to love you for who you are and what you are. You should not have to change for blokes, get some confidence and just think if you dont like me then dont look. Confidence is great i lernt to go some 6 years ago when i thought i was ugly but hey now im married with two children and a lovely hubby who loves my the way i am. So get the confidence and keep your chin up cause you will get there and have the men that loves you no matter what. Good luck
9. You should be glad that your rid of him!! As hard as it may be your better off without him!! Tell your husband be honset with him and try to work it all out.
10. dont have affairs with married men that is so wrong stop getting pregnant and having abortions once you do the right thing you will gain self confidence and feel more fulfilled then you will be secure enough to know you dont need plastic surgery and find a partner who loves you you dont need plastic surgery i hope you work it out :)
11. well... seems like you have had a pretty rough time of it. I think bascially you have very low self esteem, to end up with a married guy in the first place, and to have constant rejections. I think we have to have to know our own self worth first before we enter a relationship. You must of been fairly attractive for him to get you pregnant LOL! The fact that you lost the baby is another factor of guilt on your mind. As for feeling fat and ugly, well that can be worked on, you need to get your priorities in order. You need to build your confidence so that you love yourself enough to get up and try again. Join a diet class, I can recommend pilates for trimming a tummy, and swimming. Do you have a female friend to confide in? Maybe you should have a long chat with someone close to you, just to get your feelings off your chest, maybe you could go out with a female friend and have a shopping session where you try make up on, clothes, just to build from there, the change has to come from you, in order to change your surroundings and your life in general. The way we think about ourselves and how we place ourselves in the world really makes the differnce how we live our lives, you have the power to be anything, believe it, live it. Good luck girl, and don't ever let a married guy or otherwise treat you like a spare part again! Above all you need to get out there and get a life girl, you need to do things that you love to do, and guys will see you then for what you really are, rather than a downtrodden little woman to abuse. Even if you are totally ugly, you have a second weapon, personality, true a man is visual, but I have known many guys have mad passionate affairs with confident women, that they were attracted to for their warmth. Good luck anyway!
12. go to your doctors, get some antidepressants and ask them to refer you to a counciler. thats all i can think of.
13. Hi Veronica, I could sense that you are feeling very much inferior about yourself. Rejection by a married man has further increased your worries. Relax... If you want to do a cosmetic surgery, go ahead with it if you are able to afford the cost involved in it. Anyway you cannot retain the beauty after 40s. Every body will become older and uglier as time passes One thing I want to tell you. Try to find somebody who can accept your heart rather than your beauty. Who loves your inner soul than your beauty. All the best and be optimistic.
14. Don't have cosmetic surgery. JUST DON'T!! Do i have to mention names. Michel Jackson AKA wacko Jacko AKA that one guy whose nose looks like it is hanging off. If you don't think your beautiful now then you never will no matter how much you get jabbed with a surgeons knife. Losing a child is heartbreaking becuase that is what happened you lost a child, which is why your depressed. A part of you was taken out of you and thrown away, left to die, or experimented on. Which is why your depressed. You don't seem to think much of yourself to go witha married man you deservered someone for you, I'm sorry you haven't found him yet.
15. Neva let any1 make u feel like ur not worth a thing, he is the 1 bein a *****, take no notice of him, if u really feel badly about the way u look, go out 2 a spa, get pampered get ur hair done go out nd buy some new underwear that will make u feel gorgeous nd sexy nd then find a gorgeous nd sexy guy 2 show them 2. good luk ;-), have fun xxx
16. Firstly nobody has the right to treat you like this. Having supported a freind through an abortion I know some of you must feel, and not having anybody that cares there with you must have been horrible. This guy is a complete waste of space, he firstly had no right to treat you like this and secondly no right to put you through all of this. You feel bad now because of the way you have been let down and hurt. The way your feelings have been trampled all over at a very vulnrable time. You need support and consideration not abuse! The feeling bad about yourself is simply your way of coping. Plastic surgery is not really a viable option, but I would strongly reccomend some form of counciling to help you sort out your feelings, you have just been through the wars so to speak, step back and sort out how you feel. Stop putting yourself down, you are a good person, and you deserve like everyone to be treated with dignity and respect. You need to start being a little more posative get an appointment with your Dr for a start, and forget this looser for a while, you need to concentrate on you, and heal yourself and your feelings. If you feel bad or sad and just want an annonomous chat e-mail me. I hope you start to feel better soon, and things start to work out for you. They have done for my freind took her a while, and it was hard watching her hurt and sad, but she is through it now and so much happer, you can be too. Good luck
17. You do not need to have surgery because of the drama in your life. I'm sure you look fine. Some men like a little extra meat on women. But if after you have gotten over all the drama and you still feel like having surgery, then go for it. But do it because you want to and not to please anyone else.
18. I doesnt seem like you happy with youself at all. I dont mean to sound nasty but sleepin with a married man is bang of order. obviously your gonna feel lonely because when you sleep with someone who is married you will always come second to the person that hes already with. It seems to me like you need to go and the jeremy kyle show. How do you think your husband felt when he found out you were sleeping behind his back no wonder you cant get anyone because it sounds to me like your not a very committed person and thats probably why people walk all over you!!!
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20. well if u do feel like that see a counsillor and go to a gym the exerecise will make u feel better about urself. u made a mistake but that doesnt have to be the be all and end all. think about the positive things in ur life, he was just woried his wife would find out he was being a selfish bas***d! you r better than him and forget about surgery! i would have had the baby and then told his wife, serve him right his loss his greater than urs